My husband and I have been married for six years. For five of those years (seems like) we have always had issues when it comes to his female friends. In 2009, he re-enlisted in the military and eventually ended up over seas for approximately 10 months. During that time, he became somewhat addicted to a very popular social media website. He reconnected with old friends and made some new ones. Our relationship began to deteriorate while he was away, mainly for what he blamed on me not understanding him and knowing his heart. He became so involved with one friend that when he came home for his leave time, she met him at the airport and he spent two days with her before he even came home. He denied it all, but to this day doesn't know that I have seen emails to prove he lied. He's very careless with passwords and usually uses the same ones for just about everything. Once he moved back state-side, he continued a "relationship" with one of his friends (not the airport friend). One day he left the house and left his email up, and I read an email that she wrote him. She was furious with him for coming to their hometown and not letting her know he was coming. I was with him. She felt that he at least owed her respect because she had spent money for hotel rooms, dinners, and gifts. When he got back home, he saw me sitting at his computer reading the email. I was so upset that I just left the house and went for a walk. He met me outside to talk about it and claimed nothing sexual ever happened. I forgave him and only asked that he would cut ties with this woman. He promised he would and I thought he had, especially after she had nerve to call our house. I spoke with her and she pretty much told me I was a jealous wife and that I would never understand their friendship. In my opinion, that was very disrespectful to me and he was upset that he had allowed things to get to that point. Well, recently I have seen emails that show he's communicating with her again. Some emails I have deleted because I have gotten to a point that I don't care if he knows I know his passwords. He always deletes what he sends so I never know the entire scope of the conversation. And once he reads hers, he deletes them.
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Is there such a thing as privacy in marriage? Am I wrong for checking his email, or should I be confronting him on this issue? I feel as if I'm condoning his behavior by not revealing that I know. I know once I tell him, he'll change the password. That would probably be the best thing for me; then I won't be consumed with checking it.
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Feeling betrayed...
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